Over the past few years several people told me they could not feel my heart. They thought something was wrong with me because I was not energetically reflecting what they wanted to feel. It took me a while to realize these people could not feel me because they were centered differently than I was. I am centered in my pineal gland. I trust and follow my heart, but I do not center myself there. I believe connecting heart to heart, the way we were taught in the past, creates energetic looping.

Energetic looping is engaging with others by projecting our issues onto them. We usually prefer to project energy from our heart or higher chakras, because we were taught these chakras are more spiritual than the lower chakras. Many of us are confused by the energies of the lower three chakras because most of our issues originated there. The first chakra, at the base of the spine, collects and projects sexual/creative energy. The second chakra, or Hara point in the lower abdomen, is the point of balance for male and female energy. The third chakra, at the solar plexus, is the center of power and control.

So what happens when you come from your heart? If your chakras are not balanced and you project from your heart, you also engage your lower chakras whether you intend to or not. When someone tells me they cannot feel my heart, what they are really saying and feeling subconsciously is they cannot feel themselves or what they need to look at within themselves.

When you energetically loop with others and your fields are also out, the loop will continue past the time you are with that person physically. When you see them again, the energetic patterns will still be there. That person will continue to project their issues onto you whether it's guilt, anger, or pain. We all need to move out of this way of looping. This is one of the reasons I suggest clearing yourself, pulling your field back into your body, and loving yourself.

How is it different when you are in your space, loving yourself, compassionate towards others, and not projecting your issues? The other person will not be able to loop with you in the same way because you are not projecting your issues or reflecting their issues back to them. You will recognize what your issues are and take responsibility for them without projection. You will then have a choice about how you wish to continue to learn. You can learn, instead, by witnessing others and the dynamics around you.

Most of us loop with our loved ones. We create patterns of interaction where we reflect each others issues and we continue these patterns of engagement to keep our loved ones attached to us. Are you afraid that if you didn't reflect the issues of your loved ones they would leave you to find someone who would? Please understand, loving yourself unconditionally is very attractive. Your loved ones will feel this wonderful energy and want to be around you, even if they don't know why. It is both healthier and easier to attract and keep a lover by loving yourself than by reflecting their fear and pain.

Energetically we are all changing. As our vibrations change, it will not feel good to be with some people any longer. We may not like what they are creating. We understand what they are doing and have compassion for them, yet we can choose if we want to be with them or not. By not repeating these old energetic patterns, we can accept them for what they are without judging them or ourselves.

As we fully embrace the vibration of loving ourselves unconditionally, what will happen to the people we used to loop with? They will feel the love and acceptance we have for ourselves, which will give them the opportunity to recognize this quality in themselves and change if they choose. We can never change another person, but the more we love ourselves the easier it is for someone else to recognize that capacity within themselves.

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