WHAT IS THE SECRET TO LOVE ?
By Ken Page & Nancy Nester
Is there a connection between our heart and our soul? Where is the soul located in the body? How do we evolve? What is the purpose of our existence on Earth and our connection to God or Source? Why do some people feel connected to Source and others feel empty? These questions have been asked and answered in so many ways - is there anything left to write about? We have found a different perspective that we wanted to share with you.
Throughout history, we have not been given the opportunity to learn the truth about ourselves, our connection to Source, and our soul. Those in power have kept us in the dark where we became lost in the outer world. Why wouldn't those who had discovered the secrets of life want us to know that each of us has the potential to become the light of Source?
Spiritual and political leaders have suppressed the truth for a number of reasons: cultural, racial, religious, and sexual. For centuries, people have searched for truth in the name of God. Wars have been fought. Millions have been killed. There are more than 1700 religions here on Earth today, including billions of Catholics, Muslims, and Hindus. Which beliefs are correct? Where does this fervent religious energy go? How does it affect the planet? Have our religious beliefs affected our love, compassion, and creativity?
Each of us has a memory, a knowing sense, an innate philosophy. Each of us knows that we have our own story. We re-enact our stories over and over again as we awaken to our inner truths. Our outer world no longer fits who we have become. As we awaken, there is no need for the past to remind us who we are. There is no need to hide any longer.
People have many different ideas about what it means to be open, to be loving, and to be in our heart center. We are not speaking about the center of the physical heart, but the heart chakra center, the energetic gateway to the soul, which is located along the centerline of the body next to the physical heart.
Chakras are energy centers throughout the physical body. There are seven to nine chakras, according to different schools. Many of us are uncomfortable with the energies of the lower three chakras, because the majority of the challenges in the world originate there. The first chakra, at the base of the spine, begins with sexual/survival energy. It then evolves into sexual/creative energy and finally culminates in creative energy. Most people never get out of sexual/survival energetics because of their personal sexual experiences.
The second chakra in the lower abdomen is the point of balance for male and female energy. The third chakra, at the solar plexus, is the center of power and control. If our lower chakras are not balanced we will continue to energetically loop from the fourth chakra, our heart, to the first, second, and third chakras. Falling in love and making love creates an energetic connection between the heart chakra and the base chakras. The different physical and emotional experiences we have in relationships set up energetic pathways. Subconsciously we keep attracting others until we physically master sexual/survival feelings and emotions.
As humans evolving, we continue to fascinate ourselves by our interactions with each other and how certain patterns of behavior are repeated over and over. Even when we have the best of intentions to come from a loving space, many of us repeatedly become involved in power and control struggles with those around us. Why does this happen? Because we continue to connect with others heart-to-heart, the way we have been taught in the past. This type of connection in our opinion, creates 'Energetic Looping'. Energetic looping is created when we consciously or subconsciously engage/interact with others by projecting our unknown issues onto them.
When we are energetically out of balance and we try to help others, what really happens? Do we send love and light based on how we believe others should act or how we think they should be helped? When we send love, is what we are projecting love or is it energy? If we think we are sending love, when it's actually energy, are we intensifying and distorting another person's creation, as well as our own? Could we be interfering with the lessons of others when we think we are helping?
How many of us love ourselves unconditionally? Do we love the way we look? Our hairline? Our body shape? Do we love every aspect of our life? Our job? Our house? Our family?
When there are parts of ourselves we do not love, how can we send love and light to others? What kind of energy do we think we are sending? Will the energy we send be influenced and therefore, distorted by our own inability to love ourselves unconditionally?
What has been our experience of love? Have we ever been loved completely? Did any of our parents love us to our full ability to be loved? It wasn't until later in life that most of us realized our parents could only love us as much as they loved themselves. Is this also true for us? Can we only love others as much as we love ourselves?
In addition to the fact that most of us do not fully love ourselves, most of us also energetically mix our energy fields with others. This happens because our energetic fields are usually projected outward several hundred feet from our bodies. When these fields are projected that distance away from us, everything going on around us can and does affect our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bodies. When our fields are out and we send energy to others who also have their fields projected out, could this distort our perceptions and experiences even further?
When we energetically loop with others and our energy fields are also out, the loop will continue past the time we are with those people physically. When we see them again, the energetic patterns will still be there. That person will continue to unconsciously project their issues onto us whether it's guilt, anger, or pain. Spiritually, this ongoing dynamic helps us to master our issues. This is because sending love, light, and energy to others, when we have not learned to love ourselves unconditionally, attracts physically what we do not love within ourselves.
Isn't there an easier way to learn our lessons? For years we have shared the secret - the secret of unconditionally loving ourselves. It really is very simple, a technique that is so easy many people have thought it was too easy. Yet by clearing our physical body, pulling in our energetic fields (taking back our power), and unconditionally accepting everything about ourselves - loving ourselves - we can change our vibration to one of pure creative love.
What will the difference be when we are in our space, loving ourselves, compassionate towards others, and not projecting our issues? The other person will not be able to loop with us in the same way because we are not projecting our issues or reflecting their issues back to them. We will recognize our issues and take responsibility for them without projection. We will then have a choice about how we wish to continue to grow spiritually. We can learn, instead, by witnessing others and the dynamics around us.
Most of us naturally loop with our loved ones. We create patterns of interaction where we reflect each other's issues, and we continue these patterns of engagement to keep our loved ones attached to us. In the past, some of us might have been afraid that if we didn't reflect the issues of our loved ones, they would leave us to find someone who would. Please understand, loving ourselves unconditionally is very attractive. Our loved ones will feel this wonderful energy and want to be around us, even if they don't know why. It is both healthier and easier to attract and keep a lover by loving ourselves than by reflecting their fear and pain.
As we fully embrace the vibration of loving ourselves unconditionally, what will happen to the people we used to loop with? They will feel the love and acceptance we have for ourselves. This gives them the opportunity to recognize this quality in themselves and change if they choose. We can never change another person, but the more we love ourselves, the easier it is for someone else to recognize that capacity within themselves. Even though we may not like what others may be creating, we will understand what they are doing and have compassion for them. By not repeating these old energetic patterns, we can accept others for who they are without judgment. .
What we advocate is to BE love. To be love is to love ourselves unconditionally and have unconditional compassion, acceptance and non-judgment of all others. This is the beginning of the path to having unconditional love for all creation and discovering the power of the heart and soul - the secret to Love.